Anyone willing to help me out

[1slo_camaro]

guys this has absolutely nothing to do with cars or anything but i really need some advice.


lately me and my girlfriend have been fighting (im not gonna get in to alot of details) alot lately and if there is anyone willing to listen and give advice please let me know im just lost with what to do guys.


ANYONE PLEASE!!

[msfyter]

How old are the two of you? How long together?

[Black97]

Fight about what?

[1slo_camaro]

im 19 she is 17 im in the military and away. i know you guys are gonna see how young we are and look at it like its nothing but its just really hard for me to deal with it

[Joshu]

As I have learned, at our age the distance thing never ever works out. Sorry bro.

[1slo_camaro]

lol defintaly man like i wanna try sooooo hard to make it work but like tomorrow i have to be up at 4 am for work and she would rather hand out with her friends untill 1 and then talk to me and im like WTF i have to sleep its just soo painful cause she was right there when i lost my ex of 3 years and i wouldnt say she was a rebound girl or anything but her being there after all that happened it really mad it alot easier and now its like she doesnt care or something i just dont know what to do guys i dont even have the motivation to go out and wash my car or even put money into it. i lost all motivation in everything including eating i just cant take it anymore my car did nothing wrong she shouldnt get punished cause becca is being a twat lol

[Joshu]

We're young. Time is on our side. Plenty of fish in the sea.

[1slo_camaro]

yes but im happy with her lol

[RAF7789]

COMMUNICATION is always KEY in a relationship! What i have found is that if she doesn't know your wants, needs, desires whatever, etc, then as far as she is concerned they are xistent.

[BrdWAtti2d]

This is going to sound way too simple and maybe kind of curt, but don't sweat the small stuff. You don't have to win every argument. Some things just aren’t worth arguing over, just let it go. Choose your battles carefully. Especially those you can't fight face to face.

[Steel2686]

Losing your motivation for things like washing your car and even eating doesn't sound like you're "happy" to me.

As stated above, communicate. If that gets you nowhere, then it's time to cut the line. You'll be in pain for a couple weeks, but in a month, you'll feel so relieved you did it. Communicate first and foremost.

[sneitzel]

yes but im happy with her lol

As Steel2686 pointed out it doesn't sound like you are happy. My guess is you feel safe in the relationship and are afraid of letting that go. (again, I'm just guessing...I don't know much about you or your relationship) There is a difference between safe and happy. They can go together sometimes but don't confuse the two.

The fact that you can see there is a problem and are going looking for advice shows good maturity. Follow through with that. Take an objective look at ALL aspects of this relationship and decide if it is really what you want and need at this point in your life. None of us can answer that question for you, only you know what you truly feel in your heart and soul.

[1slo_camaro]

wow thanks sooo much guys i knew i could rely on you all you all pretty much said what i already had in my mind, i am happy but as everyone knows relationships have their bad times. we talked for a four hours last night eventhough it resolved in me being late for work today i think we got everything worked out we came to some conclusions and some do's and dont's and we both know what the other person wants. i really hope everything works out my mom always told me to keep fighting untill there is nothing there (meaning dont give up on the relationship) so just best of luck to me lol thanks again eveyrone who threw in there two cents

[BrdWAtti2d]

Good luck pal, I hope everything works out for ya. Just remember, life is way too short to waste any of it being unhappy.

[Wild Willy]

Sounds like she has some growing up to do- not recognizing your needs and responsibiliites- understandable at her age-

You need to find a mature adult to have a relationship with, not a 17-year old kid-

Tell her you want to start dating other people, and see how she takes it. I would bet that she will jump at the opportunity to see others- 17 is way too young to be settled into a 'serious' relationship-

sorry-