It is best to identify whether you were being selfish or if there really is a divergence of interests. If there are major differences, it is best not to change yourself or for her to change to accommodate the relationship...it just goes bad in the long run. This is the reason that my son's mom and I are apart. I am a task oriented person that is responsible to home and building a future while she likes to hang out with friends and go out on the town. There was no middle ground between us. We tried and tried to do more of what the other wanted, but in the end we were both miserable. I guess you need to ask yourself if there was a middle ground that you didn't pursue. Anyhow, in the end, you both need to be happy. If either of you are unable to meet the other's needs, it won't work. It is better to know now then when the responsibilities come (like kids, house, marriage, etc.) In addition, if you do think there is a middle ground and you pursue resolution with her, then you need to feel that it is the right thing for you...not giving in because you miss her otherwise you will go down the same road again later on.
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